I kissed dating goodbye study
“I think it’s made us realize how there’s heartache and there’s pain no matter what pathway you choose in life,” Harris said.
“There’s no path you can choose that can protect you from that.” He now believes that a formulaic, controlled approach to life and faith is harmful, and in a 2018 interview with NPR he said his mistake was to take Biblical views of sex too far.
And I think that’s where the problems arise.” One writer, Shari Smith, writes in Christian Post that she saw many friends badly hurt by and that its teachings, “deeply ingrained in her church culture”, affected her dating life, her relationships, and how she viewed herself as a woman.
In the comments under Harris’s TEDx talk on Youtube, many people have written about their experiences with the book.
“In an effort to set a high standard, the book emphasized practices (not dating, not kissing before marriage) and concepts (giving your heart away) that are not in the Bible,” he writes.
“In trying to warn people of the potential pitfalls of dating, it instilled fear for some—fear of making mistakes or having their heart broken.
Shemeaka writes, “I personally loved the book, waited, was married, and have a wonderful husband and three sons.
He still holds to its call to “sincerely love others” but says his thinking has changed a lot.The book also gave some the impression that a certain methodology of relationships would deliver a happy ever-after ending—a great marriage, a great sex life—even though this is not promised by scripture.“To those who read my book and were misdirected or unhelpfully influenced by it, I am sincerely sorry. I know this apology doesn’t change anything for you and it’s coming too late, but I want you to hear that I regret any way that my ideas restricted you, hurt you, or gave you a less-than-biblical view of yourself, your sexuality, your relationships, and God.” For healthy dating advice Harris now recommends books by trained experts – such as by mental health and relationships counsellor Debra Fileta.One writer, Lovelle says that when he was 21 his church quoted the book “as if it was the Bible”, and used it to stop him from dating at all.“I was taught having the desire for a partner is ungodly,” he writes.