Whos t i dating
Many of the men I date are open to adoption as a backup.
Don’t let what a man says make you insecure about yourself. Sometimes they say one thing yet play themselves by falling in love and staying anyway lol and sometimes they don’t stay.
I know a couple who met in their thirties, within 6 mths they were moved in together and pregnant. They were both "ready", both knew what they wanted and went for it. I think he was broaching the subject because he wants to know where you stand on having kids.
While fertility for women begins to drop around age 30, women do have babies in their 40s. I'm serious in relationships and date men who are the same, so this always comes up within the first few dates and we put it all out on the table.
Sperm quality also does decline, albeit not the sharp drop that it does in women over 40. I agree with Smackie that his words really could have meant that he doesn't want to be a dad but for whatever reason, he doesn't want to own that. Not making any suggestion one way or the other about being 40 and wanting to have a child or to try to have a child. When I asked what he meant, he said time is running out because he doesn't want to be "an old dad." I'd of course wondered if he had wanted children, and why he hadn't yet had them with other women he's been in relationships for, but our conversations just hadn't led to THIS conversation yet.
For all the comments about women being able to conceive in their forties, I was one who was perimenopausal in her late 30's and in full menopause at 42. He was trying to feel you out perhaps without offering his own view. This is a conversation you're going to have to bring back up ASAP because if, in fact, he wants children and you don't, then this is going to end as a romantic relationship because both of you have to be on board for/not for children--anything else is unfair to the child. He knows exactly what he's saying--he is a master at coralling a conversation because it's his job to do it. __________________ If the person you're with treats you in any way other than well, and you keep sticking around trying to make it work, you're no longer a victim of what they're doing--you're a volunteer. I will definitely have to have a hard conversation with him about all of this, and may let him know that he was a little tact-less bringing up so sensitive a topic in a sort-of cavalier way (I've suffered a lot of pain having not found the right situation to have children in when I was younger).
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Even more wierd supposedly being a pretty smart guy and with a dad that's a doctor. Anyway , looks like your gonna have to talk about all this stuff sometime soon, but l guess there's also always adoption too maybe or other things you might be able to look at together if things work out. because he wasn't opening an honest dialogue about kids or finding out your view ... The people I know who are older and want to have kids ... I think I'll have to leave the decision up to him as to whether we continue dating or whether he continues his search for women who may likely be more fertile than I am.